Dyads

A Dyad is described on Wikipedia as “(sociology) mostly refers to pairs of individuals such as couples, co-authors, twins, partners in crime, etc.”

“If we want Enlightenment we must do more than clean up our communication cycles and tell our truth, we must also protect people from unwanted contamination. We must let them be free from us. For these goals the “Dyad” was created. The “Dyad” helps one obtain -pure – clean communication without the normally attached abuse. It will allow you to really grow in your own chosen direction and connect to your deep normally hidden self.” ~ dyad.org

There are many different explanations of how to run a dyad.

This is just a simplified description of what James and I do.

Our great thanks to Stephen Garret, Satyen Raja and The Get A Life Company for first introducing us to this amazing and timeless practice!

  1. Stand or sit comfortably facing your partner should width apart.
  2. The partner on the right side will be the first Speaking Partner; the other on the left will be the Listening Partner.
  3. For those who have done dyads before  – we may not be doing them the same way you are familiar with. And that is OK!! This isn’t about comparisons! It is about our willingness to be in the experience: our willingness to be present to whatever shows up even if it doesn’t look like what you expect!!
  4. The 2 statements are: A Strength I See in You Is… and The Beauty I See In You Is…
  5. The Speaking Partner is going to look deeply into the eyes of the Listening Partner, making eye contact, ground themselves and take a deep belly breath and then the Speaking Partner will complete the first Statement, “A Strength I See In You Is”. This is NOT a dialogue. The Listening Partner’s job is only to remain present, with an open and receiving heart and to really hear and receive what is said, not to respond, question or reply in anyway.
  6. When the Speaking Partner is complete, the Listening Partner says, “Thank you.” And it is complete. Listening Partner, please do not refer in any way to what has been shared. Do not interrupt. Often when we talk about something it takes the preciousness and significance away from the moment.
  7. The Speaking Partner again looks deeply into the eyes of the Listening Partner, making eye contact, re-grounding themselves and they take a deep belly breath (just like at check-ins!!) and then the Speaking Partner will complete the second Statement, “The Beauty I See In You Is”. This is NOT a dialogue. The Listening Partner’s job is only to remain present, with an open and receiving heart and to really hear and receive FULLY what is said.
  8. Again, when the Speaking Partner is complete, the Listening Partner says, “Thank you.” And it is complete. Listening Partner, please do not refer in any way to what has been shared. Often when we talk about something it takes the preciousness and significance away from the moment.
  9. Then switch.
  10. There will be approximately 2 minutes to share, Speaking Partner, so cut to the chase!! – and say what is really on your heart to share. If nothing comes up when you are speaking, look into your partner’s eyes because, “There is no new information up here (in your mind); all new information is out there!” Trust that you cannot say the wrong thing. Press yourself to be revealing.
  11. When both partners have shared, come to a silence, and acknowledge each other with a loving gesture (hug etc).
  12. The first share will be longer, as people familiarize themselves with the process. When the first shares are complete. Have the row on the left take one step to the left, and stand in front of a new partner. The person at the end will come around to stand in front of the person at the beginning of the row. Begin again.

It will take approx. 20-40 minutes to do this dyad exercise.

Other DYAD statements / questions / instructions that James and I have used are:

Tell me something about yourself, that is important to you, that you think I may not know.

Tell me something about your ideal trip – where would you like to travel, what would you like to do.

Tell me something about yourself you have never told anyone before.

Tell me something great about yourself.

Tell me what I can do to show you that I love you.

There is a long list of additional theme/topic-based dyad statements/questions / instructions at www.dyad.com